Some traits are unfortunately more attractive in theory than they are in practice...

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"Yes, I  thought it would be great to be with a fun, witty, gregarious partner. Til it became clear the constant joking was cover for a hot mess of baggage and a refusal to manage their ADHD."

"My ex used to befriend every numbnut.  While I was very friendly, these are people I didn't want to socialize with."

"Plus, I feel like they will expect the same lifestyle from you, and I can't keep up with that. I'm satisfied with my moderate exercise routine and want someone looking for the same."

"Overachievers are the worst. There's constant competition (even over minor things) and they need to be seen as the smartest. I honestly find them exhausting."

"All well and good until you need them to do something!"

"All well and good until you plan to do anything. I remember dating someone for only a few months who was 'super laid back' and what it really meant 'I possess zero inspiration or sense of urgency.' Planning the simplest date was exhausting."

"My cousin is in a relationship with one of these. She is a phenomenally selfish person. He’s always been a bit flaky, now he is 100x worse. They go away on 'communal' trips where everyone contributes and she has fun the whole time while he picks up her slack. She doesn't cook, clean, or drive. She has pulled him into her group of hippy friends and they have a very kinky, sex parties galore, open relationship. But he cannot see that it is a wildly unequal partnership and that he has ditched a lot of his friends and family to run after her."

"Honestly, I am not a constant texting type, and someone who needs constant attention drains me."

"I went on 3 dates with this guy and he's great in person, good conversation and banter, puts in the effort, communicates his feelings. However, I've known him 2 weeks, and he's just out of a long relationship, so I told him I'd like to go slow, and especially with texting. He was texting me all day every day asking what I was doing and when he could see me again, saying he missed me, that he couldn't stop thinking about me, double texting if I didn't respond in a few hours… I just had to end it. Sucks, but he was just demanding too much of my attention too fast."

"Yeah, I was gonna say the creative artsy types seem cool and deep on the surface, but I'm done with them. Most have inferiority complexes for not making it in the creative arts. Rather have a man with a stable career who dabbles in creative hobbies. They're usually happier IMO."

"I kept wanting this too until I found out sensitive doesn’t equal emotionally mature."

Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.