“My ex was on Tinder and claimed that he was just trying to talk to people to practice his English.”

"I take solace in that I do not have to deal with whatever it is he has to deal with internally every day to have to do something so disgusting and terrible."

"I was like 'Do whatever the f*ck you want; I'm not fighting you over this.' I stayed with him for a bit more because I had just had surgery and needed help getting around. Long story short, he broke up with me through text and said I made him feel lesser as a man. He talked about his supposed problems, and proceeded to block me. I was like, 'LOL, okay.' Coward."

"I don't know why they do these things. Maybe because they are comparing you to the new person they are head over heels with and seeing all the things that make you different from them? Maybe to push you away so you break up with them and they can pretend to be the good guy? Maybe to make themselves feel less bad because they 'look at how horrible you are,' and they think they deserve better?"

"He made wild accusations that I was cheating. He rang my boss, even. (I wasn't nor have I ever cheated in ANY of my relationships.) 

I discovered a box of condoms in our home. He told me his male business partner gave them to him. I found a receipt of a meal for two when he was 'working late.' I discovered he'd joined an online club for affair partners (this was before smartphones and dating apps). 

I went a bit crazy trying to gather proof. All I had were rumors and stuff like this. I did confront him, and of course, he denied it. I left because I saw I had no relationship, whether he was cheating or not. He was absent and I was broken and lonely. Saddest time of my life."

"The thing that caught him was when I was driving us to lunch and he sat in the back with the baby, I could see his phone screen in the baby mirror. When I asked who he was texting he said 'the guys,' but I know he messaged them through Slack and it was a different app on his screen. I turned around and went home and said neither of us was leaving until he came clean. Even then he only told me a small portion.

I tried to make it work but found out nine months later he was still cheating when I found a secret email address and logged into it on his computer and found their chats. At that point we even had each other's locations, but he was leaving for work early and dropping his phone off at the office and then going to her house. He also had a second phone taped to the back of a drawer in the bathroom.

Why he went to all that trouble instead of just ending out relationship, I will never know. It was incredibly cruel and traumatic to go through, especially being pregnant and having a baby at the time.

My mistake was confronting him every time I suspected. It just made him better at covering his tracks. I would have just gathered evidence until I was sure."

"I think the worst part about getting cheated on is the insult to our intelligence. It's like they're saying 'I don't think you're smart enough to figure out what I'm doing to you. If you do figure it out, I'm going to gaslight you into believing that you're just being paranoid.' I hate cheaters. The first time someone cheats on me emotionally or physically, I'm gone. There is no working through it. We're just done. I'll never trust them again."

"There were subtle signs before that I didn't notice or pick up on at the time because you believe the best and don't want to see it, but the signs were there."

"I went back in and she was trying to hide the packaging of a morning-after pill at the bottom of the trash. She'd been meeting a much younger man, and even had a secret apartment."

"She said 'I'm friends with both of you and didn't want to get involved.' I said letting them use your house to hook up got you involved."