“Most men see their wives as a resource.”

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If the font above is too small for you to read, it says: "We are separated (and very happy for it now), but still best friends, because I married an incredible man. He’s truly good and kind but also cares fiercely about equality. After our son was born they had to sew me back together for an hour (it was bad). I could barely walk but his mom/her side of the family guilt-tripped us into a 45 minute drive through Seattle traffic with a crying week old baby in his car seat and me crying from the pain of the car ride. Sitting on a pillow. The restaurant we ate at had hard wooden chairs.

But the worst part was at his aunt’s house before dinner. I was very gingerly sitting on the couch while my then husband was changing our son’s diaper on the floor.

His mom dead ass looked me in the eye and said, “Do you even know how lucky you are? His dad never did anything like that for me. You should be grateful.”

So I stared right back at her and said, “I know. He’s an incredible partner who expects to be a dad and equally carry the load of raising a family. That’s why I married him.”

She huffed at me but kept her mouth shut after that.

I will never be with a man who doesn’t completely see me as his equal and who understands and lives out the reality of needing to share the work of life in a way that respects both people as humans, not unequal balance based on gender norms. Just no. Full stop."