“When there is always an excuse and no accountability.”

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"There's a smoothness and an awkwardness in everyone that you can see if you pay attention and almost look through them; you can see gaps where masks falter. (I’m clearly very suspicious and overly socially vigilant, plus I watch too much Columbo and criminal psychology videos and mentalism/mind-reading magic tricks). Personally, I love and am so endeared to foibles and fumbles and awkwardness; the smaller the gap in masking, the better. I don’t trust anyone who is too smooth or does too good of a job of hiding their humanness and mistakes. I kind of love vulnerability and embarrassment; it’s pro-social and honest, and people connect better with it, and people love it." 

"These are the people who, if we weren’t in a modern, cushy society and instead were back in our hunter/gatherer days, would be picked off by predators. How are you not getting mugged/pick-pocketed when visiting a big city? How have you not been hit by a car yet? The survival instinct aspect aside, I tend to look at it more as selfishness and again, main character syndrome. Can’t be bothered to notice other people exist.

Really grinds my gears, as the saying goes. Use your eyes and your ears; get out of your own head and frackin’ look around you. Be courteous for God’s sake. How many times here in my community do I see people walking, on bicycles, or in little vehicles (we are a car-free community, but we have ATVs and golf carts and such) having to come to a complete stop to wait for people to move when they obviously SAW YOU long before that? It’s like establishing dominance and control or something? So I guess it’s not always a case of being oblivious, just not noticing other people; sometimes they notice and just choose to not GTFO of the way."

"Some people are genuinely unlucky, and everyone makes mistakes. But if bad things just keep happening to them, and it’s never ever their fault… I avoid these people."  

"They spend lots of time crafting the perfect social image, but they are completely vacuous people. If you call on them for anything that takes real effort, they will have an excuse why they can't help you every time. Their morals will likely be very flexible, but they will portray themselves to be paragons of morality. The obsession comes from deep insecurity, and these people can't be trusted."

"To quote Red vs. Blue: "I mean you should hate somebody because they are an asshole, or lazy, or a know-it-all, or a pervert, or a snob. Those are reasons to hate somebody. You have to learn to despise somebody on a personal level. Not because someone told you to, but because you see them every single day, and you can't stand them because they're a complete and total fucking douchbag."