The fact that cancer was mentioned multiple times has my blood boiling.

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Note: This post contains mentions of abusive behavior.

Comments were pulled from this Reddit thread.

"I think people really underestimate how much of a burden this can be for the partner who, from an outside perspective, is 'always getting their way.' I dated someone who always deferred to my opinion, and frankly, it was exhausting. Not just because I hated feeling like I was inadvertently bulldozing him constantly, but also because selfishly, I just wanted to be relieved of the pressure of making all the decisions all the time. Even though we weren't together all that long, the mental load of it wore me out."

"Everything I did was for his comfort. I shrank myself shorter and smaller, and the entire time, I thought I was the worst partner anyone could ever be unlucky enough to have. Finally, one day, he suggested we make a code word for him to say whenever we were out in public, and I talked when I wasn’t supposed to. I left the next day. Aaron, if you’re reading this, the only difference between you and your abusive father is that you don’t yell; you cry."

"Sounds like you removed multiple cancers."

"Interestingly, I didn't even have cancer at all (concerning lumps were benign, thank god). Apparently, it was just him and my friends who were the actual concerning lumps."

"I had never lived with another partner until my last relationship. I got set in my ways, was lazy, took her for granted, and didn't adapt until it was too late. I completely fucked things up with an amazing woman. I wish I could redo it all with what I have learned, but life doesn't work that way."

"Same. I still feel hurt that he chose his addiction over me."

"I love those last two sentences. I will be trying to apply that to life in general moving forward."

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