Relationship Advice From People Over 40 That'll Completely Change The Way You Think About Dating

“You’re saving yourself from many disappointments if you have a clear profile for a potential partner.”

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"This!!!! My parents always told me don’t marry the person who gives you butterflies. Go with the one who feels 'calm' to your nervous system."

"This is the biggest one!!! Life is going to throw so many curveballs at you and your body is going to change so much if you have kids. It sucks when females have kids and try so hard to stay in shape but then the bfs or husbands are like 'I don't find her attractive after' 🙈😭😭😭😭. Meanwhile they gained more weight than our pregnancies combined. Man it sucks."

"100%. My litmus test for letting people into my world is asking myself, 'Can I have a difficult conversation with this person and come away feeling like we resolved something?'"

"This is so important. When everything is great, it's easy, but when life gets hard and people make mistakes (no one is perfect… shocker) and life happens, is your partner fighting to win or are we on the same team? My most painful moments have been conflicts where a partner fully withdraws, stonewalls, and despite taking accountability even for things that weren't mine to carry, they could not meet me halfway. Fighting fair seemed impossible, and it was in the context of winning or proving who was right and wrong."

Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.