Note: This post contains mentions of abuse.

"There's such a wide range in 'normal' phone habits that I think any pattern of phone use is guaranteed to be off-putting to at least some people. I guess new couples today have to be phone compatible, just like you have to be financially compatible and anything-else-compatible!"—collapse

"Okay, sir, even though you said, 'I love you' in week one. They broke up after a month, and he went back to one of his exes right away. Here’s the thing. My friend later came up to me crying and said, 'Sorry, I now know how you felt.'"—25, Female, Texas

"I'm happy to say I have since healed and recovered from all the emotional abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, and heartbreak, and I'm now in a long-term committed partnership and have my own baby girl. Always look for the signs, put your health and safety first, and leave anyone in the dust who doesn't respect your time and energy."—Anonymous

"Well, I ended up marrying this man. I had to teach him manners, social graces, interpersonal relationships, and common sense. Now he’s old, chronically ill, mean, and I have to caretake him. It’s been a trying, exhausting journey. I wish I had run after that first date."—44, Female, San Francisco

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