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"This is so real. The first time I went on a date with my husband, my cat got stuck behind the couch. My arms weren’t long enough to reach, and she kept meowing (I lowkey think this was her testing him LOL). My husband never had a pet, but didn’t hesitate to reach behind and gently pick her up. She’s never left his side since 😭😭😭 and the man is fantastic in bed." 

"Picky eaters who say 'ewwww' when they don't like the taste of something are usually bad in bed."

"Super picky eaters, or people who claim to just not really care about good food." 

"Or if they are messy eaters or just have gross table manners."

"How they eat. If they are picky eaters and gross out easily, there’s no way that guy is good in bed. If he eats like he enjoys every bit of whatever he is having, imagine all that excitement 'eating' you. That’s what you want." 

"They're rude to servicepeople or otherwise generally selfish or egocentric. They aren't 'givers.'" 

"On average, liberal men are better, but there are definitely exceptions in both directions. I joined the swinger community a couple of years ago and was surprised to realize that a solid chunk are conservative. We don't usually talk politics, but there are usually clues if one pays attention. I have a decent sample size upon which to base my conclusion. I'd never date one of the conservative men for a regular relationship, but some take pride in their work. I will say that the absolute best have all been liberal men or bisexual women." 

"Dirty fingernails — you aren't coming near my kitty with those." 

"Guys with oversized trucks for no absolute reason." 

"Does he dance? If so, does he move on the beat or just wherever? You can also gauge his sense of timing and rhythm if there’s some sort of live music situation where people are clapping along. Can he find the count and hit the beat? Because if there’s no sense of rhythm, that’s gonna be quite boring. And I probably won’t get anything out of it." 

"If they are very stiff when dancing — can't move their hips, no rhythm — they'll be bad in bed." 

"Oh yeah, my ex thought women's vaginas were ruined from toys, childbirth, or hooking up with larger d*cks. But it actually turned out that he was just awful in bed. Just terrible." 

"If they never ask about you or how you're feeling, they won't care how they make you feel in bed." 

"If they can’t (or won’t) hold a decent conversation over drinks, then the hooking up is going to be bad. It requires decent communication!" 

"'Just tell me what you want me to do.' I’m all for expressing preferences. But I’m not going to do the mental labour for you." 

"In my experience, men who objectify you in conversations and can’t communicate in an emotionally intelligent way are pretty bad in bed, despite their inflated egos."

Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.