“On our wedding day, one of his female friends turned up in hot pants, a crop top, and a necklace saying my husband’s name. Then, she got extremely drunk and said to all of my family that my husband was her third favorite man after her dad and her brother (this was in front of her own husband) and that I didn’t deserve him. After I told him how awful this made me feel, my husband didn’t tell her to stop, but instead said how sweet it was and how grateful he was to have her in his life.”

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"A year and a half later, we divorced, and I learned to tell people how I really feel."

"After work, I spent the entire afternoon dreading the evening to come. Went through with it anyway. We didn't make it four years before she cheated."

"I saw pictures of him recently, and he's turned from a decently sharp-looking guy to a neckbeard, hillbilly-looking guy, and I'm glad I'm divorced. Like, I tell everybody, it was the best 20 bucks I ever spent."

"I don't regret my marriage; I have two beautiful children, and he was a huge part of my growing up, but I'm glad I finally recognized and acted on the truth."

"Again, I thought this is nerves, and he's stunned by my beautiful dress and the experience. There was no honeymoon, no ring wearing, and one year in, he began a years-long affair with a coworker. Looking back on that day, everything I misread and explained away haunts me. The worst part? Everyone knew but me that day, and no one said a word. Nothing."

"After my escape, I went to therapy, and a few years later, I met my Prince Charming — the world’s most devoted and supportive husband. We have been together 10 years this summer."

"I should have annulled it. Thirteen years (how apropos) later, I was left with two wonderful children and half my money; she brought NOTHING to the relationship except a car payment and no job."

"It took me six years to get out of the marriage that he only wanted for show."

"We divorced after a year and a half because he kept quitting his jobs and expecting me to pay for everything."

"Surprise, he turned out to be a control freak who never took no for an answer and developed a hobby of calling me a POS for not catering to his every whim. When we got divorced five years later, his own grandmother told me I deserved better."

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"I didn’t even spend time with my husband during the reception; I was too busy having fun with everyone else. But the real sign was after everything was over, he was throwing a tantrum because he didn’t want to keep the night going. We had ALL our friends and family in from other states and countries — it wasn’t even late! So, I just sat there watching him rant and rave, and I just kept thinking, 'This isn’t how it should feel.' And I was right."

"Six months later, he comes to me saying we have made a terrible mistake and asking if I'd mind getting pregnant again. I gasped at the callousness of the question. He disregarded all our prior reasons — some having to do with MY health — and the pain I felt knowing I had aborted my last real chance to have a child (my age). We were divorced within the year."

"If I didn't have such low self-esteem, I would've ran the other way. It only got worse after we got married. Please heed those red flags."

"Nothing I did was ever good enough for him. He was always trying to change me. He was a lying, cheating, alcoholic narcissist. He should come with a warning label."

"He had gotten four tattoos of ‘my name’ and even my face. Since our divorce, he’s gotten two other women’s names tattooed on his body. I guess it’s prime real estate."

"I walked away from my wedding alone, holding my daughter in my arms, with loud music blasting. It was all very much a window into the rest of my horrible, isolating, abusive ex-marriage."

"Looking back now, I should have left and booked a flight home. Things never got better. Folks, do NOT ignore the red flags, and trust your gut. I'm about to embark on a hellscape journey with two kids under 3, and although I wouldn't trade my kids for the world, I wish I had never married their dad that day."

"The biggest omen, though, was right before we were set to leave on our honeymoon, we get a call that there was a major explosion at our hotel that killed four people. The hotel was still open, and if we changed or canceled, we would lose a lot of money, so we went and spent 10 days terrified and anxious because no one would tell us what was going on. We also fought because he wanted to go to town and find drugs. He got more and more emotionally abusive as the marriage went on, and I eventually divorced him. I'm out now and with a wonderful man, but looking back, I want to smack my younger self for being so oblivious."

"After I told him how awful this made me feel, my husband didn’t tell her to stop, but instead said how sweet it was and how grateful he was to have her in his life. I look back now and realize that he wasn’t prepared to stand up for me both on our wedding day and in the rest of our relationship, and he has always put his toxic friends before me. We ended up splitting toward the end of last year, and I’m better off without him."

"We separated at the end of 2020, and I’m now happier than ever. I just had my first baby in June, and my child's father is my ex-high school sweetheart…the same one that I realized I never stopped loving for all of those years."

"I was deluding myself for a long time, but I really knew in that moment I shouldn’t have gotten married. We are now divorced, and I realize I never deserved to be treated like that. You should be the only person your partner wants to be with on your wedding day."

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